Each November, countless families across the country come together to celebrate their blessings and eat a hearty Thanksgiving feast. But, like most holidays, Thanksgiving can be an extremely difficult and emotional experience for the recently divorced. For the first time in a long time, you may be alone on a day that glorifies the ideals of “family” and “togetherness.” It’s completely natural to feel a little glum.
To help you find a little comfort this holiday season, the Illinois divorce attorneys at Wakenight & Associates, P.C. have completed this Thanksgiving survival guide.
Take Action & Avoid Depression
It’s hard to feel excited about a home cooked meal when your ex-spouse and children won’t be at the table. For people readjusting to single life, it can be difficult to get out of bed in the morning, let alone enjoy a family-based holiday. Even so, you can still embrace the spirit of the day and summon the energy to create new Thanksgiving traditions.
Designing Your Own Thanksgiving
When your parenting plan doesn’t line up with the holidays, you may need to get creative. Fortunately, there is no law that says you can’t celebrate Thanksgiving any day of the year. If your children are with your ex on Thanksgiving Day, maybe you can have your own family dinner the weekend before or after.
It’s also important to remember that everyone enjoys a good feast. If you have friends or family members who don’t have Thanksgiving plans, maybe you can host a party that allows everyone to partake in holiday merriment. Or, if you want to host a party so your kids can come, you may be able to reconnect with people you wouldn’t have been able to see otherwise. After all, this holiday is also about giving thanks. This can be an opportunity for you to show your loved ones just how important they are to you.
Relax & Stay Off Social Media
The best way to send your mood plummeting straight down the well on Thanksgiving is to check your social media. Stay away! Seeking your children or friends having fun with their family members is just going to send you spiraling into depression. Instead, relax and treat yourself. You can read a book or binge-watch a tv series that brings you comfort. Maybe you want to go traveling or camping on Thanksgiving and get away from your normally hectic schedule. Indulge in some self-care and do whatever makes you feel special.
Need Guidance? Call Wakenight & Associates, P.C.
It’s normal for a family’s needs to change over time. If you have any questions or concerns regarding your divorce settlement, contact the Illinois divorce lawyers at Wakenight & Associates, P.C. If necessary, we can help you pursue modifications that benefit your changing lifestyle.
Call Wakenight & Associates, P.C. to schedule a free consultation. We have offices located in Joliet, Oak Park, Elmhurst, and Mokena.