Once the summer months fade into fall, children across the country start
dreaming of the one night a year they can throw on their favorite costumes
to knock on doors for yummy treats and playful frights. However, any holiday
event can be difficult for families once a divorce has been finalized,
and Halloween is no exception. It’s not unusual for children to
lack the Halloween spirit because they are still processing their new
reality. As a responsible co-parent, it’s your responsibility to
put aside your own complicated feelings to ensure that your child has
the best Halloween ever.
We understand that this may be an emotional event for you as a parent.
To help you get through this night, the Illinois divorce attorneys at
Wakenight & Associates have assembled the following helpful tips:
Tip #1: Don’t Put Pressure on Your Child
Some parents make the mistake of asking their child who they would prefer
to spend a holiday with. This puts an intense amount of pressure on a
child that is still reconciling with a divorce and may be afraid to hurt
one parent’s feelings. How can they have fun running around the
neighborhood if they’re feeling guilty?
Tip #2: Plan Ahead
The most important thing to remember is that Halloween is for children.
If you can, communicate with your former spouse to plan the upcoming holiday.
Perhaps the two of you can compromise about who can take your child out
trick-or-treating. If you are on amicable terms, perhaps you can share
the night for the sake of your child. We know that it can be difficult
to spend time with your ex, especially if they are currently dating a
new partner. But this is about supporting your child and proving that
their happiness and well-being is your #1 commitment.
However, if your situation is less than amiable, you still have options.
For example, if you live in different neighborhoods, you can always agree
to split the night. Not many kids would turn down a chance at extra candy!
Tip #3: Split the Night
It’s unfortunate, but co-parenting often means splitting holidays.
If Halloween doesn’t land on your parenting day, you can always
plan a separate event with your child that doesn’t conflict with
the visitation plan.
Be creative! Think of an alternative plan your child may enjoy, such as:
- An age-appropriate horror movie night
- Costume shopping
- Halloween decorating party
- Pumpkin carving
Tip #4: Make Plans If You’re Spending the Night Alone
Spending any holiday alone can be tough, and it’s easy to flounder
in depression. But if you want to win a gold star in parenting, you can
call your kid before they start trick-or-treating and wish them a happy
evening. They can have fun if they know you’re doing okay. Once
that’s taken care of, you can do something to treat yourself.
Treat yourself on Halloween by:
- Going to a party
- Hanging out with friends
- Having your own Halloween movie fest
- Visiting any local Halloween events
Need Divorce Advice? Schedule a Consultation
Illinois divorce attorneys at Wakenight & Associates if you require legal guidance or representation.
We understand that divorce can be an incredibly difficult experience for
families. Our experienced legal team can listen to your concerns, guide
you through the divorce process, and help you negotiate a divorce settlement
that provides you with financial security.
Call Wakenight & Associates, P.C.
to schedule your free consultation. We have offices conveniently located
in Oak Park, Joliet, and Mokena.